Having a newborn or even young children at home is tiring but fulfilling however there are going to be some days that you will be exhausted and you feel like you are just both physically and emotionally drained. That feeling when you can even no longer take care of yourself and even just doing the basics like brushing your hair or taking a shower seem like impossible to do. Parental fatigue or parental burnout is real. In order to give quality good care of your kids, you need to take care of yourself. Here are some tips that can help prevent parental fatigue:
- “Me” time. You have to take a break and just have a time for yourself. If your child is taking a nap, take a little time for yourself. Ask your spouse to look after your child so you can take a shower, fix your hair or anything you need to do. Don’t stress yourself if you see your house messy – it can wait, take your time until you are well rested before doing non-essential tasks at home.
- Get some support. For parents especially those who are new and has a newborn, they are pretty much sleep deprived. Lack of good sleep can take a toll physically, mentally and emotionally. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. So ask a family member or a friend if they can come over to watch over your child. I’m sure they will understand your situation and will gladly help you, no questions asked.
- Eat healthy. Good nutrition helps you give the energy you need to function at home. For parents who just gave birth, eating healthy will help your body to recover faster. Eat more fruits and vegetables rather than eating “junk foods”. Make sure you are also well-hydrated, so drink lots of fluids – water is best.
- Nobody is perfect. Some parents have high expectation from themselves and from others. That can add up to the stress to your already daily busy huddles in life. None of us all are perfect. Don’t make a facade that everything is perfect at home, or perfect in parenthood. It’s better to acknowledge your weaknesses rather than pretending you are okay and does not need help. So let go of the thought that everything needs to be perfect.
- Read. Find reading materials on how to prevent this burnout. Here are some books I found: Motherhood Is a Btch: 10 Steps to Regaining Your Sanity, Sexiness, and Inner Diva by Lyss Stern and Mommy Burnout: How to Reclaim Your Life and Raise Healthier Children in the Process by